The book by Robert Munch, I’ll Love You Forever used to be one of my favorites as a child but found it a little silly as I grew older. I mean for all of us that have been read this book or have read it to our children the thought of the man cured up on his mother’s lap seemed a little far fetched.
And then I got it. It doesn’t matter how old you are or where you are in life your mother is always your mother, and you will always need her no matter what age you are. I know there have been times in my adult life where all I have wanted to do is curl up on my mom’s lap and have her tell me that everything will work out, that I will be alright.
I remember, as a child there was nothing my mother couldn’t fix and even now she is a sounding board for me when times are tough. She listens without judgement and doles out advice if I ask, and some times even if I don’t. But that’s what mothers do.
I am making it sound like I had the perfect childhood, but I didn’t, my mother had to grow into the mother she is today. I am lucky, she realized she was making mistakes and did what she had to to make amends. This is what counts. I can remain angry with her for my past, or I can accept that she did the best she could with the tools she had. What matters is she is trying, and continues to try. And I love her for it.
The one thing I have realized these past years doing the work that I do is that people can only be a parent, a friend, spouse as well as they have been taught. This is not to be used as an excuse but as a stepping stone for growth. Strive to be better parents than our own, and learn from our mistakes but continue to grow.
This is for you mom.
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