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Unconditional Love and Expectations

This blog post is inspired by all of you that are teaching me about unconditional love
For those of you that really know me as a friend or as a practitioner or both, know that I am big on self growth. With this blog post I want to share with you what I have been working on in the past 6 months. Unconditional love, not just for others but for myself as well because that is where it needs to begin. This hasn’t been an easy task, it never is and I must admit that I still struggle every day with it, but I believe that I am starting to fall in love with myself for the first time in my life. I am beginning to accept my flaws and work on them if need be. But am also discovering my assets and what makes me truly unique and special as well. Constantly striving to be the person I know I am. And the more unconditional love I am able to show myself the more I can show others.

One of the lessons I have learned is that unconditional love knows nothing of expectation, control or judgement. Loving yourself and others for where they are at this moment in time instead of where you think they should be. We hold such high expectations for ourselves and we tend to project those expectations on to others. This is not unconditional love, it is I love you but…What I have been learning is the easier I can be on myself, the easier I can be on others. Lessening the self expectations, and the judgement allows me to treat others better as well. As I have stated unconditional love begins with self.

Unconditional love for self and others allows us to take a step back and allows those we love to grow at their own pace, always lending the support if it is needed. Never being pushy or judgmental. Unconditional love for self knows that we aren’t perfect and are accepting of this. And by healing the areas in our lives that need it, allows us to become whole. Unconditional love is one of the hardest lessons I have had to learn and continue to learn.

I believe that judgement of self and others comes directly from our high expectations and with that comes control. It is so easy to say just sit back and let it be, it is so hard to put it into play. But stepping back and letting go of control also encourages unconditional love. Control, like expectations says we don’t trust ourselves or others to be capable of handling the journey on their own. Letting go is also an act of unconditional love.

Although this journey I have chosen to take is one of the hardest i have ever encountered. I am learning so much about myself, and accomplishing things I never knew I was capable of. If you feel that this is your journey as well, please know that it isn’t easy but the rewards at the end are bigger than you can ever imagine.


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