I don’t believe that the hardest words to say are “I love you”, but “I’m sorry”. In order to be truly sorry for our words or our actions we must completely let go of ego and the self righteousness surrounding the given situation.
I have written about forgiveness in my blog posts before but I now want to address the other side of it. I am at a point in my life where I realize that I need to repair the damage I have caused and make amends or move on. Saying “I’m sorry”, like giving forgiveness, is all about freedom. Freedom of ego, of our perception of the circumstances, and of any emotions surrounding it. When we say “I’m sorry”, we have done what we can to rectify the situation and now the ball is in their court. We can not own what they do with it. We have done our part in reaching out, and the only thing we have control over is how we react if the response is less than what we expected. We can choose to become indignant and let ego take over. We can wallow in “How dare they?” or we can see this as just another one of life lessons we must learn this lifetime. We have the choice to grieve if it is needed or to continue to hang on when a door has been closed. This is the only true control we have over a situation like this.
Saying “I’m sorry”, is also about consciously taking responsibility for our part in these situations. It takes a mature, and aware person to step up to the plate and admit they were at fault. Where for some it is easier to point the finger and say “You did this to me”. But in truth, there are almost always two sides to every story, two perspectives, and two individuals at fault. One thing we have to realize this that people come in and out of our lives for a reason, and with each interaction, friendship, or relationship there are lessons to be learned. And sometimes these lessons are all about letting go when the time calls for it. But so many of us have such a hard time doing this. No one wants to feel the grief and sadness that almost always is associated with letting go. Know what it is that is needs to be done and and not being afraid to feel and experience the emotions that come along with it.. For after the emotions of grief and sadness, comes the feeling of freedom because you have been able to release and let go.