The one thing that I am finding difficult about this self discovery process is figuring out on a day to day basis what I need. And not what I need to do, but what I actually need for the day, these are two totally separate things. But before I could even begin to answer this question, I had to rediscover myself, and let me tell you it is an ongoing process. Please understand that I am writing this blog post for both men and women that read it but believe women in general, have the tendency to self-abandon to take care of others before themselves. Truth is yes, we do need to put ourselves first because if we care for ourselves, the better we can care for others. The first step is discovering who you are, not as a wife or husband, parent, or health care practitioner, but who you are as a human being. Find out what you like, dislike, what inspires you? What motivates you? And start listing your needs on a daily basis. This is one great way to make sure you are taking care of you. Make it a daily routine, find some time during your day to make a list. It doesn’t have to be a long one, but just a few that you would like to do that day. Here is my list from yesterday:
- get a hug from a friend
- read a few chapters of my book
- do an accunect session on myself
Your list will be completely different from mine because your needs will be different. I can assure you that doing one or two things from your list each day will change the way you look at life, and you may even begin to see it in a more positive light.
I am not going to lie, this daily project is not easy and there will be days when you come up with nothing but remember that small things count too. Like going to a window (if it is too cold outside) and enjoying the snow fall for a minute or two, pull out your ipod and listen to your favorite song, snuggle with the cat/dog/hamster…you get the picture.
Here is how you do it. I make time for a short meditation each morning with the intention of finding what I need for that day. I assess my physical, spiritual, and emotional body and make a list based on what I feel, not on what I think I need.
I encourage all of you reading this to try it daily for a week or two and see how this way of thinking can change your outlook on life. Don’t forget to be creative with it, and have fun!